The perpetually learning mom…

Dear Blog reader,

My name is Rosse Mary and I am a 40-year-old undergrad college student. Adding to that and not surprisingly I am also a mom of three, a full-time employee and a Latina. While this is not a unique situation, it is one where the perspectives of a few people meet. That of the adult student, the professional, the mom, and most notably the woman with aspirations and plans for a more enjoyable everyday life. Because as you will read, as an adult student I am no longer thinking in the far future of my life or the dreams I may reach some day… I am thinking of today, and maybe tomorrow.

This blog will not be a guide to navigating parenthood and school (a ton of those can be found online), or an advice blog aimed at those looking to take a similar path in their lives, though some may take notes about what not to do, ha-ha! This blog is about the joys and struggles of my personal journey and my choices as I face each hurdle on my track. I will share some of the questions that trouble my sometimes-confused mind, maybe some silly occurrences of the week, and mostly how things are going with a touch of cluelessness and an attempt at emotional intelligence.

So grab a cup of your favorite indulgent drink or a pint of the finest ice-cream in your fridge and come chat, I mean read, about how I got here in the first place and help me decide where to go next.

PS. Special shout out to all those amazing women throughout history that have paved the way for girls to be here today, THANK YOU!

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Sherly G

February 26, 2021 at 3:36 am Reply

I’m excited to continue reading your content and following your adventures and thoughts!

Leticia G.

February 26, 2021 at 12:43 pm Reply

I cannot wait to read more…Thank you so much for sharing about your journey.P.s favorite drink will be always ready every time…

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Thomas Benke: Looking Around In Bird by Bird, Anne Lamott, in the Chapter “Looking Around,” says this: Now, if you ask me, what’s going on is that we’re all up to here in it, and probably the most important thing is that we not yell at one another. Otherwise we’d all just be barking away like Pekingese: “Ah! Stuck in the shit! And it’s your fault, you did this …” Writing involves seeing people suffer and, as Robert Stone once put it, finding some meaning therein. But you can’t do that if you’re not respectful. If you look at people and just see sloppy clothes or rich clothes, you’re going to get them wrong. She goes on to speak about empathy for other people and also, as an extension empathy for yourself. So, in a sense as you try to write believable, relatable characters, you will come to forgive people their trespasses—because no one believes they are the villain of their story, so you have to write “bad,” or “evil” characters from a point of view where they rationalize what they are doing in such a way that it is the right or only way they see is possible. By extrapolation, then, if you begin to forgive and withhold judgment from your less-than-desirable, or annoying characters, perhaps you can extend the same courtesy to yourself and forgive your own trespasses and sins. This, for me, starts to enter the realm of “writing as therapy,” and though I am a firm believer in that—I practice it to this very day—I think I would caution anyone who thinks that simply writing through things is going to lead you to a place of light and love. I am not saying it can’t by any means. What I am saying is I have wrote through my thoughts and my problems and my desperation and depression for decades and I still had enough baggage on my shoulders to supply an army platoon with rations for a year. In any case, when thinking about craft, it is very important to step into the shoes of all of your characters, especially those characters that you see as antagonists and villians. I believe there are very few universal maxims in writing but one thing is virtually certain: every character you write is your version of that human being. Confucius said “everywhere I go, there I am,” and that is never more true than when you are writing. So if you are writing a character that is distasteful to you, it might be effective for you to ask yourself why that is the case. I wrote a blog for Obscura last semester titled, “The Puppy Had It Coming.” The gist of the article was to pose a puzzle to writers. How can you write a scene where an adult human kicks a puppy across the room and the reader at least understands why. I am not saying there is any way to justify the action or for the readers to be on the human’s side unless they are sociopaths. I am saying you need let the reader know how dark the place is in the character’s mind that he is capable of doing that.

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